How to find sex partner for threesomes?

Would you like to have sex with multiple sex partners? Are you looking for a threesome?

The next few paragraph originated from a married swingers couple. It is written  for couples who want to consider the shared fun of MFM threesomes and wonder how to get started.  The copyright is hold by author. The author is the female part of the couple. Her name is Janie and she lives in US.

Please read Janie's advice if you are a female part of the couple and you would like to share your sex life with other men in a present of your husband.

May I suggest that you start by having a serious discussion about her willingness to try a half-dozen MFM experiences before either of you commit to doing this sort of thing on a long-term basis. That will also give him a chance to be sure some jealousy bug is not lurking in the dark reassess of his personality.

Simply decide to give it a try six times... preferably with six different guys... over a period of time. Be sure it is NEVER at a time when either of you are upset with the other... or a time when either of you are saying a firm "No" to the idea at that time.

Where will you meet a willing extra guy. Almost any place! The truth is that a very high percent of all the red- blooded American men out there would jump at the chance to be the extra guy in a female-centered threesome. Some guys may find it a bid "kinky" at first... only to be overjoyed with their experience when it is over. Remember lady, he is there to enhance YOUR pleasure... but you must remember to see that both men's needs are satisfied too!

If you live in a small town, or if either of you work in a high-profile profession, you may want to go out of town to find the extra guy. Other times, that extra guy may be found in the office next to yours, or at a nearby bar. Sometimes the wife will notice a good "prospect" and bring him to hubby's attention. Other times hubby will find someone to bring as a surprise to the wife.

We have met good prospects at swingers clubs and of course on the Internet. We have followed up ads in adult magazines and newspapers... and after appropriate "screening," have found some men with whom we were compatible. We have even met guys at the beach, struck up a conversation... and generated a few good prospects this way. You have got to be ready to be sociable at all times if you want to meet some new guy who may then become a prospect to join you in shared bedroom pleasures.

Probably the best for us has been a bar and pool hall on the other side of our metropolitan city. We found it one night while cruising around with another guy we were already occasionally inviting into our bed.

The place has a bar, a dance floor and a large room that houses about six pool tables. Sometimes I dress up extra sexy, and when we get there, my hubby will shoot pool while I accept dances with various guys. Other times I will join my hubby and a few other guys for a hot game of pool... showing off my charms in the process. I always make it clear that I enjoy having fun... and that I am married.

When I meet a guy who starts coming on to me... or a guy I think would be an interesting new extra guy, I immediately point him out to my hubby. Often that leads to my husband joining the guy for a beer while they both "oogle" me.

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On more than one occasion the other guy will voluntarily comment, "Wish I could get a piece of that one." Husband picks it up from there. If I have already indicated my approval, hubby will respond by saying something like, "If you are serious, that may be possible." Then he will lead the guy aside and tell him about our lifestyle.

If the guy is not repelled by the idea of being one of two guys making it with a woman, hubby will ask the guy more questions, get a phone number for a later contact, and tell him we will be in touch. Then, we generally all three meet at a neutral place for a drink... just to get better acquainted... before we ever actually arrange to meet at a motel, etc.

On a few occasions at that bar, I have taken the lead with a guy I feel particularly attracted to. I will invite him to dance with me... I will cuddle close on the slow dances, and I will press my breasts on his arm or let my hand graze his crotch while we are close. If I get his attention, I may ask him if he likes to "fool around." If that gets a favorable response, I may tell him I am married, and that my husband occasionally lets me invite another guy to join us in our sex life.

If that does not blow his mind, I will ask him if he has ever joined another guy in giving sexual pleasure to a woman... does the idea turn him on... is he interested, etc. Then I will tell him I will be right back.

I will leave him as I hunt down hubby to tell him about my "prospect." If he agrees, he will approach the guy without my present... tell him about our conversation... confirm my feelings about the "worthiness" of this prospect... get his phone number for a later contact, and tell him we will call later.

We ALWAYS get a guy's phone number BEFORE we set anything up. We don't care if it is a work phone, a home phone, a voice mail or a friend's phone number... but we insist on having a way to renew the contact on our terms and timing. AND... we are always very discrete when either of us calls.

Both hubby and I hate condoms. I love to feel the squirt of cum against the inner walls of my pussy or mouth... and on my breasts. However in the today's STD's world absolutely necessary to practice safe sex only with anyone outside of your permanent partnership. We made this clean for anyone who wants to play with us. It is simple - No condom no sex.  Also there is no sex 100% safe. Accidents can happen, condoms can break. You have to face it, you might pick up some nasty disease or get pregnant. I do not want to get pregnant, therefore,  for condom breaking protection I take birth control... Also we are selective in who we invite to join us.

During our first "get-acquainted" contact with a prospective new guy, we ask lots of questions. We attempt to get a fix on his past lifestyles, whether or not he is married. We do not play with married men without his wife knowledge.  She doesn't have to play, she doesn't have to be there, but she have to know that, her husband  looking for sex and she have to agree with this. We do not having sex with guys who cheats on their wife! 

I would say that for one reason or another, at least 75% the guys we have met for a "get acquainted" drink never end up in our bed. We weed them out. We want guys who will be fun to be with, at ease with their sexuality, straight (sorry my man not into bi and gay men), have a high probability of clean health, and are intelligent. Most of all, we want to avoid takers... rip and run artists... guys who have other than giving in mind. After all, I am openly a bit selfish!

Finally, I don't want to leave you or your readers with the impression that we invite a different man into our bed every night. We do this occasionally for pamper our self...  Generally, we set up an MFM threesome about once in every two months with someone. I have never met any of the guys when my hubby was not with me. These may not be necessary rules... but they are our rules... and they work well for us.

In the 12 years since we decided to give MFM threesomes a try, I have probably had the opportunity to experience the cocks, tongues and hands of 40 or so different guys while hubby has simultaneously made love to me and screwed about 25 - 30 different women, of course he did it with me, in my presence...

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